When you first get engaged you will without a doubt, get unsolicited advice from anyone and everyone you know. Not all of it is bad, but when you first get engaged it can be a little overwhelming. Best advice, say thank you and write it down or have them email you the information if you really want it. It took me a good month before I really started to listen to all this advice or actually ask for it.
Picking a date and a venue is of course the first major decision you need to make when planning a wedding. Everyone wanted to tell me what dates worked best for them and what dates not to pick because of other things going on. If you listen to everyone else, you will never pick a date. No matter what, you will have conflicts with people. In the long run, it is about you and your fiancé, so don’t let your friends and family sway you in your decision on when to get married. If you want a spring wedding, have a spring wedding.
When it came to making a decision on a venue, Mr. Thirteen and I had differing ideas. I had always thought it would be great to do a destination wedding and Mr. Thirteen said, why not the courthouse? I could not imagine having a courthouse wedding nor did I think I could have the big 500 person wedding. I figured why not just have our family and closest friends there? It’s about us and of course Mr. Thirteen just wants to make me happy so he said to look into a destination wedding. I had some contacts in the travel industry so I called them up and asked for a contact in the destination wedding planning industry that could help us in this process.
I started working with Sandy from Travel & Transport who has tons of experience in destination wedding planning. She took what we were looking for and gave us some great places to start. This of course turned into more unsolicited advice because this person couldn’t come or did you think about how much this would cost for this family to go and what about passports and airfare and the list goes on and on. Again, this isn’t about everyone else, it’s about Mr. Thirteen and I celebrating our wedding day.
After about a month of looking at destinations and really thinking about what we wanted and what kind of wedding we wanted, the more I realized I wanted to have a wedding here in Nebraska — but we’re going to do it our way, non-traditional and full of what we love. We knew we didn’t want to get married in a church and we knew we wanted to have a fun, fun party with those we care about most in the world.
As we started looking at venues, I did get some ideas from friends. We were looking for a venue with both indoor and outdoor space and preferably a space to get married in as well as have our reception. The first place we looked at was 1316 Jones. I fell in love with it right away! It is located in downtown Omaha, had an amazing deck (my outdoor ceremony space) and tons of character. But I decided to keep looking because, like the dress, you can’t pick the first place you see, right?! Well over the next few weeks I looked at a half dozen more venues and made calls or sent emails to another dozen places. Nothing could compare to 1316 Jones. I made one final call to Chad to get dates available. He gave me every date left in 2013. After much discussion (as I wanted to get married sooner rather than later) Mr. Thirteen talked me into picking the only date left in October. In the long run I know it was the best option as it gave us enough time to plan without being stressed and gave us more time to save money for the wedding.
Whatever you do when planning your wedding, always remember it is your wedding. Mr. Thirteen did a great job in reminding me of this and you should too as it is about you and your groom, no matter what anyone else says.